It’s been a while folks, so I do apologise. Even though I’ve been feeling really good lately (actually, really really good)- I must admit there’s been a lot going on in my personal life, as well as finishing my degree (everything to be handed in, in 14 days!) so I haven’t had time to blog.
However, there have been events that have been swirling around me that have been varying in the negative to the extremely positive. It made me realise how much power you can give to others to make you happy.
You really and truly have to ask yourself if the people around you are making you happy. Do they care for you as you care for them? Do they put out what you give in to a relationship? Is it a balance, or is it weighing you down? Do you make yourself happy?
The hardest part is admitting it. The next hardest part is doing something about it.
Situations and events that seem to be confrontational or hard to have, have the power to make you ‘lose your shit’. You say things you don’t mean, you shout and get angry and find it hard to respond in a conversational way.
For me, I’ve never been one to lose it completely, in fact I’m very much a calm and understanding person. Which to some, may seem quite frustrating! But not everyone is like that. Some people do not know how to express themselves in a way that does not hurt the other. Even if the topic is hard to discuss, there’s so much emotion behind it- that you practically word vomit (and nobody wants that right?)
Step back from the conversation, take a few deep breaths and then talk.
If you’re not with people who push you and support you through whatever you set your mind to, they are not worth your time. You have to know your self worth to understand completely what the friendship or relationship means to you. You don’t have to end something completely if you do not want to, you can take a break, tell them how you feel and see how they respond. If you feel it needs to end, then that’s ok too. Also, the most important part, is that you don’t have to say things in a mean way. Being confrontational does not mean you have to be aggressive about it. Hard talks are at the end of the day, the honest ones.
Some people have all different paths to take, and some people grow at different rates. Paths may cross, and some will grow together. Be accepting of someone else’s path, and let them go on their own journey. Do not be afraid of knowing what you are worth and the change that can happen with it. Do not be afraid of the emotions that go along with change too. Let yourself feel. Whether it’s happiness, sadness, guilt, love etc. Sit with it, notice and see what is happening for what it really is.
Being accepting is a hard thing to do, but something that resonated with me is that ‘Hurt people, hurt people’. Be as compassionate as you can, even in the toughest of times.
Love yourself, and accept yourself before you love and accept other people.
Sending all positive vibes to my followers ❤