It’s Allll Ok: Sadness & Why We Need It!

Sometimes life can throw some mega curve balls our way, sometimes it can sail along fine and dandy, and other times it can really suck. But days do get better. They truly do. The first step, is to say that you truly can. When we start believing that things will be good, or will be better- they will be. You have no idea how much power you hold in the present moment, and ultimately in your future. Yeah, that may be a little daunting,Screen Shot 2016-05-07 at 20.55.31 but it’s surprising what our minds can do.

“When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it–always.”- Mahatma Gandhi

Sadness as one of our six basic emotions (happiness, anger, fear, disgust and surprise as the other five) and is just part of who we are. There’s no escaping it, and it’s a very natural response to things that make us feel things from hopeless, despair and disappointment to loss and grief. It’s an emotion we all want to shake. No one likes to feel it! We all say hell nawww to all of that, but that’s where we go wrong. It feels all uncomfortable because we can’t control it like we can control happiness. We want all the happiness all of the time! But we have to understand that sadness is a natural response which will pass. Have patience and be gentle with yourself. 

Sometimes, we don’t even know why we’re upset- and that’s ok. You’re not weird, or silly and don’t ever apologise for how you feel. Remind yourself that it’s all ok. It’s important to allow yourself to feel whatever you feel.

I will leave with you my favourite quote by a brilliant man named Osho. Take care you ❤

“Sadness gives depth. Happiness gives height. Sadness gives roots. Happiness gives branches. Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously. The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots. In fact, it is always in proportion. That’s its balance.”

 

Self Love

It’s so much easier to love other people, than to love ourselves. It sucks, but it’s true. Unconditional love is a complete and whole love without limitations. Accepting ourselves is so important, and unconditional love comes from within, before we can completely and  unconditionally love others. Go with your gut, trust yourself and accept all of the things that make up who you are as a person (that’s your bad habits and flaws too!). Remember, your body is a beautiful thing. It heals you without any conscious thought. You’re here breathing, and moving your eyes along the screen. Your body is your temple, and it’s worshipping you every day!Screen Shot 2016-03-07 at 12.47.51.png

Feeling comfortable in your own skin is difficult, but important to your wellness. We always pick out our flaws as a person, then cannot understand why others do not see them as strongly as we do, if at all. For example, If I’m worried about my skin, or a bad habit I have- my friends seem baffled. I think a lovely way to the journey of self love is the saying ‘treat yourself how you would treat your best friend’. We all have days where we’re not so confident in ourselves, and feel uncomfortable in our bodies. It’s ok. Who is 100% happy with themselves all of the time? No one. Treat yourself with kindness, and the world will bring it back to you in abundance. Be gentle, you’re doing so well already ❤

We need to feel secure in ourselves, so it’s that little bit easier to not rely on others for happiness. If we constantly look to others for acceptance, how will we truly learn to love ourselves? We need to seek it within, so loving becomes such a wonderful and rad thing.

Be gentle with yourself, you ❤

After The Rush

Hey folks, I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas!! I’ve personally been laying low on the blogging front, as I’ve been working like mad before the rush of festivities and due to personal reasons, have taken a gap out to spend more time with the family. My heart has been elsewhere, but I’m sure you’ve been busy soaking up all the food, drinks, love and presents!

So after the rush of Christmas, what now?

Perhaps you’re already thinking of 2016, what it will bring, what you want to happen. Or maybe you’re thinking of nursing that food baby, and regretting your decision to eat the whole trifle with the last of that chocolate log your Grandma made you.

Whatever you’re thinking of, I hope you feel all that festive fuzz and enjoy each and every moment. The important thing is, is to focus on the present. Enjoy what’s happening now. Take some deep breaths, and go with the flow.

After the Christmas period, and after the New Year too- we also put pressure on ourselves to make resolutions, and perhaps regret some decisions made the year gone by. We regret we spent too much in the sales, ate too much, drank too much, did that thing in summer you wish you hadn’t or maybe regretted something you wish happened. There’s so much we wish happened differently, and it sucks that by the end of the year, our thoughts are sometimes consumed with the negativity of the year instead of the good.

2015, the 365 days you had, has made you who you are; right here, right now. Do not regret, or feel that you wish things were different. Celebrate what you have done, or haven’t, and grow from your experiences. There is so much more to come, and what possibilities to look forward to! Who knows what 2016 brings. How exciting is that?! That you are awaiting experiences you’ve never had, opportunities that are yet to come, and dreams waiting to be made a reality.

❤ you can do this, reflect on 2015 with a smile and be thankful of your year to come.

Sending all my ❤ to you and your families. Thank you for reading and as always – keep real! xxxx

Be Radiant!!

You were given life; it is your duty to find something beautiful within it, no matter how slight. – Elizabeth Gilbert

I have always believed if you radiate good vibes and treat yourself and others with kindness, good things will always find their way back to you. I guess you could call it karma, the principle of causality. It flows with the same principle as motivation in a way. How would you know you’d be good at something if you have never put yourself out there? Without action, there is no consequence- good or bad. Now what kind of life is that?! It’s safe and it’s in the comfort zone. If you’re happy with it, then that’s all cool. But if you have aspirations and dreams that you aint fulfilling, you need to get off that pretty little bum and do something about it!

Be good, stay well and forever keep real ❤

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared- Buddha

Awareness

Afternoon my lovelies! I’m currently on one of the trains from Yorkshire heading to Cambridge. I’m feeling all sorts of content! I didn’t bring with me any forms of distraction, apart from my leatherbound notebook which I’m writing in. Blatant content watching the world go by. It feels so good to be aware of my surroundings and to wholly appreciate where I’m heading.
It’s a wonderful sense of humanity in a way, to not feel the need to be distracted by technology to make the time pass.
Life is happening now!!
Notice your distractions & be aware of what could potentially be passing you by ❤

Love Yourself

Hello you beautiful souls!
Ah, ‘love’. Probably the most powerful emotion we feel. It can be unconditional, potent and overwhelming. It sinks through our skin and pours out of us like some kind of tidal passion, which influences our lives whether we want it to or not. ‘Love makes the world go round’. They aint’ wrong.

It cannot be bought or sold; there is nothing it cannot face; love is life’s greatest blessing.- Catherine Wybourne

Such a powerful thing, yet when it comes to loving ourselves- we find it difficult and hard to do. We bruise our own capabilities, passions and aesthetics but find it easier to love and accept others. You are a source of wonderful things!! Love, forgive and accept. Create a strong relationship with yourself, and love will come back to you in abundance ❤

Senti(mental) Health

Hello my lovelies! Hope you’ve all been keepin’ well and keepin’ real.

I stumbled across a box of letters I’ve been keeping these past three years. It started at the beginning of University when I moved away from home, right up until now- where I’ve finishedwpid-img_20150520_180337.jpg my degree! The majority of the letters are from both sets of Grandparents, some are from other relatives and friends. What a beautiful way to keep in touch! Reading through all of them and delving into all the past letters brought a smile and plenty of memories back.

Writing letters and the act of writing can be an extremely cathartic process for many. Even though it is one way of communication, it is also great for your mental health! It’s fulfilling, wonderful and full of positivity. Especially when writing to loved ones, or even just to write letters for yourself. Writing down how you feel, or writing a note or letter for someone is just a beautiful thing to do. You can put anything and everything you want down on that piece of paper. It’s total free will and there isn’t much else that can be more liberating as a person.

You can pour your soul into those words, your hopes, dreams and frustrations. wpid-img_20150520_175727.jpgCompared to the rush of an email or a text it is so much more powerful. Feeling that pen in your hand and taking the time to write it all out, is a process which is sadly lacking in this age. But it is ssssoooo good for you! Whether it’s to catch up with family and friends, or to write down in a diary your thoughts and aspirations- the act of writing is an influential tool to the freedom of the self and expressing sentiment.

It is a profound act of expression. We tend to dwell on past experiences or problems that we cannot see the solution to. Sometimes our heads are so full of thoughts, we cannot see a form of resolve. However, writing down relieves the feelings of inhibition and gives us a greater perspective of our experiences. You can write and write some more, the power is with you. You don’t have to be fantastic at grammar or have fancy handwriting- you just have to be you.

Let those words flow, whether it’s for yourself or to family or friends. It’s good for the soul ❤

Happy – Hidden Treasures

Happiness – A mental or emotional state of awesome (or something like that anyway).

We all try and obtain happiness in many forms, however complete satisfaction for what surrounds us is a little bit difficult to achieve. We’re always wanting that little bit more than what we have, and it’s all down to what we think we want but don’t actually need- most of the time anyway!

If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world. – J.R.R.Tolkien

What truly makes you happy? Like, really? Do more of it. Indulge in the kindness you can bring to the relationship with yourself. This links back to my previous post ‘Grow‘ as well as many of the others, where I spoke about it being vital to the relationships you have with those around you. Don’t let anyone tell you what will make you happy, or what is best for you, discover it yourself and hold on to it!!

It’s all from within. Focus on the good, and cultivate all those positive things! Something I think is fab for lil’ bits of happiness, is by picking out some of your favourite photos. Super goofy ones with friends and family, moments in time where you felt redownloadally good about yourself too. Stick them in random places around your house/ room. In books, drawers, cd cases- anything! I call it ‘the happiness hunt’. You’ll soon forget where you put them and find them in the future eventually.The feeling of discovering something you’ve forgotten about brings all kinds of positivity!  What a better way to brighten up your  future days! Pick photos or maybe little trinkets or tickets that bring back good things for you.

Go give it a go and as always, be kind to yourself ❤

Knowing Your Self Worth

It’s been a while folks, so I do apologise. Even though I’ve been feeling really good lately (actually, really really good)- I must admit there’s been a lot going on in my personal life, as well as finishing my degree (everything to be handed in, in 14 days!) so I haven’t had time to blog.
However, there have been events that have been swirling around me that have been varying in the negative to the extremely positive. It made me realise how much power you can give to others to make you happy.

You really and truly have to ask yourself if the people around you are making you happy. Do they care for you as you care for them? Do they put out what you give in to a relationship? Is it a balance, or is it weighing you down? Do you make yourself happy?

The hardest part is admitting it. The next hardest part is doing something about it.

Situations and events that seem to be confrontational or hard to have, have the power to make you ‘lose your shit’. You say things you don’t mean, you shout and get angry and find it hard to respond in a conversational way.
For me, I’ve never been one to lose it completely, in fact I’m very much a calm and understanding person. Which to some, may seem quite frustrating! But not everyone is like that. Some people do not know how to express themselves in a way that does not hurt the other. Even if the topic is hard to discuss, there’s so much emotion behind it- that you practically word vomit (and nobody wants that right?)

Step back from the conversation, take a few deep breaths and then talk.

If you’re not with people who push you and support you through whatever you set your mind to, they are not worth your time. You have to know your self worth to understand completely what the friendship or relationship means to you. You don’t have to end something completely if you do not want to, you can take a break, tell them how you feel and see how they respond. If you feel it needs to end, then that’s ok too. Also, the most important part, is that you don’t have to say things in a mean way. Being confrontational does not mean you have to be aggressive about it. Hard talks are at the end of the day, the honest ones.

Some people have all different paths to take, and some people grow at different rates. Paths may cross, and some will grow together. Be accepting of someone else’s path, and let them go on their own journey. Do not be afraid of knowing what you are worth and the change that can happen with it. Do not be afraid of the emotions that go along with change too. Let yourself feel. Whether it’s happiness, sadness, guilt, love etc. Sit with it, notice and see what is happening for what it really is.

Being accepting is a hard thing to do, but something that resonated with me is that ‘Hurt people, hurt people’. Be as compassionate as you can, even in the toughest of times.

Love yourself, and accept yourself before you love and accept other people.

Sending all positive vibes to my followers ❤

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